My daughter used to spend hours in the living room, not watching TV as most of her peers do, but instead finding her immersed in her creativity and innovation, around her she finds scraps of paper, beads and strings, making beautiful necklaces and dolls, other than the wonderful drawings of cartoon characters in her notebooks. And she loved to sew, make dresses, hats and shoes for her dolls. Before I bought her a cloth to help her pursue her hobbies she used cardboard, and my brother even gave her a wooden doll for her birthday. So she made clothes for her.
She wasn't allowed to TV on school days, but we were indulgent on the weekends. You weren't watching much TV anyway. She was too busy with her other things. When friends came, she would show them her beautiful artwork and drawings.
And at the age of ten, she asked me to buy her IPod touchBy virtue of being with many of her friends. And you will be surprised that for several months she was carrying a model of a phone she made of cardboard and decorated it as usual, and made him the slogan "Bee", and named it Queen Bee.
With the iPod touch system, we can control time and content, and dictate the rules for using the device early before she gets used to it. For example, she cannot use it for more than an hour a day. Do not use it after seven in the evening, without having the device with her in her room, and also, do not take the device with her on any family outings.
And with our passionate affection towards our beloved ones, we do not want to be deprived as we were deprived when we were young, either because these technologies did not exist in our time, or because of the lack of the same hand at that time. But we do not want these technologies to affect our children in one way or another, or else get addicted to them and let the matter out of our hands, and I actually bought one for her on New Year's Eve.
Soon after getting an iPod touch, I started asking for a real phone. Her strong argument was that she will transfer to a new school in September and take the bus for the first time. And she will not be able to contact me through the iPod that does not have a SIM card. And in August, before she started her new school, I bought her IPhone SE.
And so I opened a door from Hell
We had to wait until she got older, smartphones are not the same as televisions, and little by little, our daughter abandoned the rules she had set for using it. The apps only made things worse over time.
On a rainy Saturday. She wanted to talk to her friends, no problem, I see no harm in using FaceTime. Indeed, we exclude FaceTime from the hourly cap. Additionally she wanted a game RobloxAll children have this game, and it seems that it is a game that is not harmful to some extent, I tell myself that this game helps creativity and can be played with friends.
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Then there is tik tok and Instagram. My daughter is still underage, but she says all her friends have these apps. At first, I refused, but it worn out her persistence. It allowed her to have private accounts. I tell myself that she at least learns a few things and takes pictures. Then, she wanted to apply Snapchat! I only have to obey.
The hour I gave her seemed unrealistic and not enough anyway, and not using the phone after 7 pm was no longer working. My daughter comes home from school at 6:30 pm, then eats, takes a shower, and gets ready for bed. Therefore, she needs time to relax and be entertained. I adjusted the phone blocking time after XNUMX o'clock and we gave it another hour until XNUMX p.m., but that adjustment quickly got corrupted as well.
With time, we broke the rules, and I always quarreled with her over the phone, and sometimes I wanted to be nice to her and be happy, so I gave up something on the strict rules from her point of view.
I find myself giving up when I ask to pick up the phone during a family outing. She says she wants to take a tik-tok while we're in the woods among the scenic views, as well as take pictures for her Instagram account.
The behavior began to get worse, as she was no longer preparing to go out easily, as she was constantly looking at her phone screen, not brushing teeth or arranging bedding, and if she did something she had to cut it by holding the phone and looking at it. Even she no longer knows where her clothes, shoes or other things are, but the location of the phone is well known, and she does not leave the house without it.
Even when she goes to the park with friends, she spends half the time tik-tok. One night, I was finally able to check her screen time. I was horrified to find that she had spent nine hours on the phone that day.
I try to stay fun with her, but some days I'm so angry, I'm always pissed off at the way she uses the phone. I tell her that The iPhone is a wicked deviceIt steals your childhood, responds that I am absolutely right and swears it will reduce its use, but hollows.
Every once in a while, I take the phone and hide it. And you only find screaming and crying, and searching diligently all over the house as if it were Really addicted personUntil she said she hates me, and that I am the worst mom ever, then finally calms down and regrets.
Always ask her to create something like before or read a book. But it is useless. These works and these artistic creations have become household chores that she must finish quickly in order to return to her phone. And soon, until it completely abandoned these innovations.
My child who was reading in the bathroom no longer picks up a book unless she is threatened with pulling out her phone. I feel sad now because of what happened to my child, and how her old creations and works that she displays to visitors in all their details died, and instead she shows them the latest tik tok videos and other trivialities and nonsense.
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I had an iPad when I was young, about 8 years old, but thanks to the features of the iPad and its restrictions, my family was able to control me.
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It is the right of the society that allows and condones such applications from its unhelpful eyes, neither for children nor for the community that is supposed to put an end and fight for such applications that are not useful, on the contrary, for young and old children with the competent authority in the international community, and that only what is useful from all directions is allowed.
And that any unhelpful application is banned immediately, its owner and its producer are punished, and that the application environment is safe in all standards
Even in the period of time and for its usefulness not to appear, and to stimulate and learn to learn and the highest and development and at the same time be entertaining within the limits of reason.
I mean, for example, it helps children to invent, develop, and learn in all matters of life that are beneficial and not harmful, so that no one can be taken from them. On the contrary, they will be a field for learning and development.
And because the time has changed, whether we like it or not, then we as a society must be one hand united and integrated, for the whole world
It is not a country without another country. This is a global responsibility. The international community must be aware of its responsibility, especially towards future generations. How can the future become a trust in the necks of society, especially those who have the ability to change?
Of the decision-makers and the jurisdiction.
I see every generation that is different from the last time. I expect most of them with mobiles and devices. I give my families phones, but a specific time for them because I notice if I stay with them, their style with us changes and their nervousness and psychology change, and some days I remove them with me walking or sit with them We see a family movie as a change.
This is correct
In order to increase this problem and demarcate its continuity and entrenchment, God forbid, in our societies, our sons and daughters are now being forced to study remotely by using the same technical weapons that we, the elders, have been forced by as a result of modernity and electronic governments, and our children have been forced by them as a matter of distance education.
At this time the children are going crazy while they are at home, I mean, without the phone, and may God transfer the crazy home
Frankly blame ourselves
Every harmful is beneficial
It is true that phones have their flaws, but at the same time children amaze you with ideas, interesting talk, or eloquent words
You have to pray, pray to God for their goodness and to grow them good plants, and increase the number of “Our Lord, grant us from our husbands and our offspring a grave of eyes, and make us for the righteous an imam.”
My brothers, I am not a warrior of technology, but I am sure that it takes a lot of our time, more like a cigarette that an addict does not dispense with, but does not accept to be between the fingers of his liver pleasure, so their minds and bodies are not like us as they are in the process of growth, so there is no harm in depriving them of smart devices especially For those under the age of ten, you are a shepherd and every shepherd is responsible for his flock.
In short, I address a message to those who leave devices in the hands of their children, especially when it is connected to the Internet. Do not be surprised at what your child will become when you have left the field of his upbringing to others.
I have the same problem and when many, we lost control.
The opportunity is still there, but it is exaggerated by determination.
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
I disagree with most of you. I study and go out and have fun with my friends and follow the communication sites. The family met together, and it did not happen to me like what happened to these people. Every person is able to control himself, technology and God facilitated many things 1 episodes of the Qur’an
2 courses
3 and lessons
4, scientific, religious and literary forums
5 and shop
6 Demonstrate talents
How many human beings have income from communication sites
The best channel that teaches about matters of our religion is the channel of Sheikh Hassan Al-Husseini, Sheikh Othman Al-Khamis, and many others
And if you hide the devices from your children, they will find them at their school friends, dear father, so it is best to use the devices for the benefit of your child.
Unfortunately, technology is a double-edged sword. It is very unfortunate to see members of the same family instead of talking together, everyone holding his phone.
Thank you for this nice topic
Praise be to God for every case and God’s will, and he did not want it.
May God reconcile the children of Muslims .. the only solution is to link to the Book of God ..
Such solutions will continue to work with the new generation. The cell phone has become a very basic thing in human life
And this is the truth that the old generation has to accept this thing, and the reason is that everything can be settled by mobile, the solution, in my opinion, is to follow up and gain friendship with him so that he can relax and share the things that he healed and learned from right and wrong
The narrowing way is going to walk and faces you with stubbornness and upset
For example, buy a book and if it has two pages, it will tell you
Or memorize and hear 5 English words a day and the reward is mobile
My kids have the same problem, we have XNUMX iPhones back in the house. Frankly, I think that these things will forget our customs and traditions and even have an impact on the preservation of worship if it is not controlled very strictly, but unfortunately it is difficult to control this at the present time. I believe that these techniques should be used positively to communicate values and morals, and to learn to maintain prayers through prayer applications and so on.
Praise be to God. I also had a conversation about this problem, and the storyteller was talking about my son, who is thirteen years old, and my daughter, who is ten, but the girl is less addictive than her brother. And me and their mother had the same rules, but due to the distance from education (distance education) and the comprehensive ban during the Corona pandemic and the boredom, laziness and lethargy that befell him, things got out of control and we no longer control them. Distance education was the reason because they need smart devices to study, and the community around us also is another reason that all those around them, whether financially able or not own their own devices and they do not have them, have become convinced that we are skimping on them and that these rights are for them because those around them have been done. They fulfill their request from their parents and we did not fulfill it for them.
I tried all possible solutions and it did not work, and there is no solution in my opinion except for them to return to school in order to gradually move away from this predatory beast that was forced upon us.
We ask God for forgiveness and wellness for us and them
Thus, you opened a door to hell. I did not understand this phrase. I hope you explain it. Why?
I hope you will answer me
I think we are the only iPhone news site that urges to reduce its usage :)
But we are the ones who are most aware of the addiction disaster.
Why don’t you, parents, go to the settings where it says “time limit” on each application they are addicted to, and you can set a time for each application, a time to lock all applications, including permanent applications, for example, they can take this device at 11 am and then finish using those applications, for example, at 10 pm, including the applications that are running, meaning they can use it, and so on.
This is a true story… for all children… digital… companies are studying how to take possession of the human mind… and implement it
I have two daughters and I gave them my old iPhones. With very strict usage controls. and thank God. I don't have problems with them.
The iPhone system gives parents many restrictions and the ability to closely monitor their children.
Balance is required and it is more difficult than just preventing .. The whole story is striving and happening
With Corona virus, the mud got worse
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
From an experience I have three daughters, thank God
Of course, the third one will not talk about it because it did not take its share of the iPad and because I had cut it permanently
Previously, about 5 years ago, each of my daughters had an (iPad from me)
Of course, the atmosphere at home is completely calm
And my daughters have no sense for them
They are taking care of the iPad
And they eat and sleep
They are in the presence of (Mister iPad)
I was careless and liked the calm too
But what made me wake up and watch out for this danger
Is that the girls do not know each other
And they rarely talk to each other
And I found that stupidity, sloppiness, or lack of awareness, its superiority as you wish, has been consulted, pervaded and suppressed !!
At first I tried to prevent them or reduce the time, so the hysterical crying and not eating and sleeping except hard !! The reason indicates that this is addiction !!
I found only one way
Take the devices while they are asleep
The excuse that there is a ghost (Woie) who came to take my daughters and gave me the choice to take them or he took the iPad.
At first they didn't believe (skeptics)
But then they realized that the devices would not return.
Thankfully, I found a lot of good later in my daughters
They play and cling to each other, draw and memorize the Qur’an
Of course, I would replace them with bridal gifts, drawing books, and other things that would benefit them, bring them together, and entertain them.
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
From the experience, I have three daughters, thank God
Of course, the third one will not talk about it because it did not take its share of the iPad and the like because I had cut it permanently
Previously, about 5 years ago, one of my two daughters had an iPad from me
Of course, the house is completely quiet
And my daughters have no sense of them, they wake up on the iPad and eat and sleep while they are in the presence of Mr. iPad
I was careless and liked the calm
But what made me wake up and watch out for this danger
It is that the girls do not know each other and they do not speak to each other except rarely, and I found that stupidity, insomnia, or lack of awareness, called them as you wish, were consulted, pervaded and overwhelmed !!
At the beginning, I tried to prevent them or reduce the period, so the hysterical crying was that of addiction and not eating and sleeping except with difficulty !!
I found only one way
He took the devices while they were asleep and excused that there was a ghost (Woy) that came to take my daughters and gave me the choice if he took them or he took the iPad.
At first they did not believe the skeptics, but then they were convinced that the devices would not return.
Thankfully, I found a lot of good later in my daughters
They play and cling to each other, draw and memorize the Qur’an. Of course, I will replace them with bride guides, drawing booklets, and other things that benefit them, bring them together, and entertain them.
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XNUMX. The lives of all of us are, in fact, linked to telephone technology, and there are no exceptions, neither old nor young.
XNUMX. This telephone technology is not all corrupt and passive; As is the nature of all means (it has benefits and it has evils)
3. Children, especially before adolescence, look closely at our actions and behaviors, whether parents or adults, and of course they learn from us (because learning is their mission at this age). So, if a father uses his mobile phone a lot, it is normal for his son to be eager to use more of his mobile phone.
And the last: Education must be with mercy, compassion, and soft words (see God Almighty, even if he wants Moses (peace and blessings be upon him) to speak with Pharaoh (with all his toughness and stature) What did he say? {And tell him a soft word) The rule is very important; Raising children is by advice and manners, not screaming or hitting.
And in the end, do not rise in the hands of the world of technology, and the children are each one that God Almighty created with his own nature and as a special mineral, one who loves the iPhone, the other loves television, the other loves photography on paper, the other loves football, and ...; You are the same as a father, a mother, or an elder, who must advise and educate, but you must reform and remember as much as you can, and the result is with God.
I apologize for the longer
And good luck to everyone
If you notice in one of the lines of the story the answer would be ...
The girl was not inclined to phones, but because she saw her friends and peers, a desire arose for her to have a device like them ..
The problem is related to society
A mistake made by one family will affect everyone ... So how do the mistakes that accumulate for societies?
Children are forbidden to receive any technology, whether phone, television, or anything else
We can gradually allow them after the age of 16, but below that, it is something I consider a crime against childhood and its innocence.
Are right.
You are mistaken, sir. Never yourself, you are part of society and you are the cause of the destruction of your child
Family relationships have been spoiled, and everyone in their room has become isolated with the phone and the television, and they communicate with the media even though they are steps away from each other. We pay the tax of advanced technology and the next is worse with artificial intelligence and the technological gap between the current generation, the decision maker at any level, and the next generation.
Something really terrifying ... I am suffering with my children for this reason now ... and I feel that this device has really opened the gates of hell for us ...! Oh God, help us on that.
I could not complete the story because I believe that the story is a figment of the imagination, nothing more and nothing less, because the content of the story exists in all families and this is the reality that exists on Earth.
This device stole our lives even when we were adults.
Why don't my comments come out
Your words are one hundred percent correct, but timeless creations and ways of enjoyment for children and adults alike
Unfortunately, the wave is high and we cannot stop it, but we are trying to reduce it
Those who want their children are busy with mobile phones, but you only take them from them or reduce the time
If the devices are paralyzed, give alternatives
For example, outing with the family
Try to vary the places you go, so that it becomes bored
Watch a movie or anything with the family
Physical games they love
Do not take a cell phone from him and leave it bored. He will love the mobile more and more, and he will see life without a mobile phone boring
We all suffer from the same problem with ourselves and with our children. may Allah help.
I like your comment
I can sympathize with her if I live with her mentality, which lives in ancient times!
The problem is neither the daughter nor the phone in her hands
But in that mother who wants to impose her time on the time of her daughter
She should have encouraged her daughter to learn design or programming, especially since her daughter is good at that
We must keep pace with the reality of our children, not the other way around, so that what we have read does not happen
We teach our children their reality and how to benefit from it and not neglect their basic duties
Her destination instead of designing clothes and dolls to learn design and programming programs, when she found herself learning from outside the home Insta and Tiktok!
I hope that my idea has arrived and my regards
There are no magic solutions. In fact, our present age is the era of social media in all its kinds. All we have to do is legalize as much as possible, but this generation will change its way of life from the usual frighteningly in the future. Individualism will be clearly revealed and family relations will diminish. In fact, there will be no family, but rather fleeting relationships that unfortunately end in failure. And divorce
Ourselves and the community
Is the real purpose of the story to market the game ROBLOX a clever trick, and I am now downloading the game 👍
Correct marketing
Instead of telling a story and taking advantage !!!
Interfering with the intentions of others !!
If it was an advertisement, they would write that and that would not harm them anything.
Unfortunately, the illusion screens have stolen Hatta's family smiles
Praise be to God, I have the same problem, but, praise be to God, I am able to deal with my daughter with gentle words sometimes and other punishments, but she is the type that hears the words, praise be to God
The title of the article or the story is stupid
Until I bought her a phone
Why exactly the iPhone !!!
Every phone has the same damage
Excessive sensitivity to iPhone !!!
Don't be alarmed, we will look for a similar story but for Android and write it 😳
If you say why is the iPhone, but you have challenged, then why do you say to all this the same harm, your comment is a little stupid
Then the blame is on the girl and the iPhone?
No, I know that the mother will certainly read, but I think that the mother must be steadfast in her decision. If she said, it does not mean no, even if it has become, this thing makes her count her mother's account before everything.
And then it is too late
I apologize for the prolongation
My 12 year old son was able to find a real vulnerability in iPhone before update 14 so he recognized the Screen Time code. Even though I was an iPhone expert before he was born (2007)
But if his father resembled him, what was wronged?
I expect he did a screen shot
I think it is too late to say that young people should not have a smart phone, this talk does not help in solving the problem. The means of entertainment for all children of this age are phones. I only think there must be seriousness and strictness in how children deal with their phones and leave cautious feelings on their feelings that may be in They are not their place, but they are more evil than phones, so you think that you are a cap or a mother that you are protecting your child from feeling an inferiority complex in everything. It is a misfortune because you will have to fulfill his desires and give him everything he asks
The best companion in time, YouTube 😍
Life without an iPhone and without YouTube is unbearable 🙃
My daughter is XNUMX years old, almost the same scenario, but I try to take it easy on myself and tell all the children as well, and the day will come when they are less attached to the digital world and turn to physical activities,
Youngsters are not supposed to have a phone and see their fathers, mothers, and siblings busy with it so that they are not curious about what that little device is.